Quotes about Boundaries

What we need is boundaries, not barriers.

Healthy relationships don't feel threatening. Loving relationships don't feel cruel. Secure relationships don't feel as if everything could implode if you dared to draw a boundary.

We must respect ourselves enough to break the pattern of placing unrealistic expectations on others. After all, people will not respect us more than we respect ourselves. No, it's not wrong to need people. But some of our biggest disappointments in life are the result of expectations we have of others that they can't ever possibly meet.

away from things that aren't beneficial for me.

If we are living honest lives that honor God, we must not forget that people not liking our boundary does not mean we aren't living right before God. We mustn't let unhealthy people control us or have too much access to our hearts so that their negative opinion shakes us. God's is the only opinion that matters!

Boundaries are simply clearly stated parameters that provide a safe structure for communication and the health of a relationship.

God calls us to obey Him. God does not call us to obey every wish and whim of other people. God calls us to love other people. God does not call us to demand that they love us back and meet every need we have.

Remember all the work you've done to draw boundaries was not about controlling someone else's behavior. It's about paying attention ad being hones about how someone's poor behavior and lack of responsibility is possibly controlling you. And when people close to us are acting out of control, that's when we run the greater risk of lacking self-control. When a relationship shifts from being difficult to being destructive, it's the right time to consider a goodbye.

When we give relational access to us, it should never lead to "less safety, less sanity, or less strengthening for the individuals in the relationship.

If we want recovery and healing we would be wise to take a break or possibly make a clean break from the one wounding us>

If we want recovery and healing we would be wise to take a break or possibly make a clean break from the one wounding us.

A note from Jim on goodbyes: There's a big difference between waiting for a breaking point and establishing a breaking point. A goodbye shouldn't sneak up on us because if we set boundaries with consequences, breaking points are established ahead of time. As boundary violations occur there will be changes in the relationship so that you can protect yourself from hurtful patterns and behaviors that you are no longer willing to tolerate.