Simply, a complaint attacks the problem, whereas a criticism attacks the person.

Forgiveness is not reconciliation. It takes one sinner to repent, and one victim to forgive, but it takes both to reconcile. Therefore, unless there is both repentance by the sinner and forgiveness by the victim, reconciliation cannot occur

Never cease loving a person, and never give up hope for him, for even the prodigal son who had fallen most low, could still be saved; the bitterest enemy and also he who was your friend could again be your friend; love that has grown cold can kindle.

You can live a good life no matter what's happened to you. And so I don't know. I know there is condemnation, but I don't feel that's my place.

He that studieth revenge keepeth his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.

Never can true reconcilement grow where wounds of deadly hate have pierced so deep...

Bitterness is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.

As frustrating as people can be, it's hard to find a good substitute.

There is hope in forgiveness

The 'wretch' who has been saved by grace] believes and feels his own weakness and unworthiness, and lives upon the grace and pardoning love of his Lord. This gives him an habitual tenderness and gentleness of spirit. Humble under a sense of much forgiveness to himself, he finds it easy to forgive others." 76

If you hold a grudge, you doubt the Judge.

God gives you Christ as the foundation of your marriage. "Welcome one another, therefore, as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God" (Rom. 15:7). . . . Don't insist on your rights, don't blame each other, don't judge or condemn each other, don't find fault with each other, but accept each other as you are, and forgive each other every day from the bottom of your hearts. DIETRICH BONHOEFFER, Letters and Papers from Prison, 31—32