The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

If we can exit a relationship, pressure to reconcile lessens; if we must live with those who have wronged us, we are pushed to reconcile.

Without forgiveness there can be no future for a relationship between individuals or within and between nations.

I can't hate for long. It isn't worth it.

Is it not the great end of religion, and, in particular, the glory of Christianity, to extinguish the malignant passions; to curb the violence, to control the appetites, and to smooth the asperities of man; to make us compassionate and kind, and forgiving one to another; to make us good husbands, good fathers, good friends; and to render us active and useful in the discharge of the relative social and civil duties?

I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.

Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive.

...if anything matters then everything matters. Because you are important, everything you do is important. Every time you forgive, the universe changes; every time you reach out and touch a heart or a life, the world changes; with every kindness and service, seen or unseen, my purposes are accomplished and nothing will be the same again.

Love. Forgive. As you forgive, you will be forgiven.

You have just convinced me the faith you have found is what I need. What I have longed for. There is nothing further you could have said that would have convinced me. But this? This need to forgive. That is real, Julia. Genuine. I know it cannot come from within — except by the help of your God. Would you tell me how I might receive this ability to forgive from the God you have claimed as your own?

We must not only learn to tolerate our differences. We must welcome them as the richness and diversity which can lead to true intelligence.

Don't hold grudges; it's pointless. Jealousy too is a non-cathartic, negative emotion.