two types of stuffer reactions: stuffers who build barriers and stuffers who collect retaliation rocks.

Forgiveness isn't an act of my determination. Forgiveness is only made possible by my cooperation.

We must respect ourselves enough to break the pattern of placing unrealistic expectations on others. After all, people will not respect us more than we respect ourselves.

Most people are walking around with way more hurts from their past than we can ever imagine. Pretty much everyone has at some point been deeply hurt by someone. That's your "me too.

What happened yesterday can't be changed, but it can be forgiven. That's your miracle in the mess. The voices of condemnation, shame, and rejection can come at you, but they don't have to reside in you. That's your miracle in the mess.

I forgive Art for betraying my trust. And whatever my feelings don't yet allow for, the blood of Jesus will surely cover.

placing unrealistic expectations on others. After all, people will not respect us more than we respect ourselves.

With the fullness of God, we are free to let humans be humans—fickle and fragile and forgetful.

Sometimes relationships grow stronger through conflict; other times relationships end.

Love can be unconditional but relational access never should be

People who care more about being right than ending right prove just how wrong they were all along. Lord, let me end this the right way.

But then we also must walk through the much longer process of forgiving and healing from the impact another person's actions have had on us. Forgiveness is a command by God, but reconciliation should be very conditional on many factors—most of all whether all parties involved can stay safe ad healthy if they stay together.