realize that patriotism is not enough. I must have no hatred or bitterness toward anyone.

Schwab says that he was paid this salary largely because of his ability to deal with people.

Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and kindness. "To know all is to forgive all." As Dr. Johnson said: "God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days." Why should you and I?

I discovered years ago that although I couldn't keep people from criticizing me unjustly, I could do something infinitely more important: I could determine whether I would let the unjust condemnation disturb me.

Tolerance is not indifference, but a generous regard and even provision for those who differ from us on points we deeply care about.

Now just think of what the quality of life and character must be in a person who would routinely interrupt sacred rituals to pursue reconciliation with a fellow human being. What kind of thought life, what feeling tones and moods, what habits of body and mind, what kinds of deliberations and choices would you find in such a person? When you answer these questions, you will have a vision of the true "rightness beyond" that is at home in God's kingdom of power and love.

We forgive someone of a wrong they have done us when we decide that we will not make them suffer for it in any way.

It can be hard to forgive and let go but it's important to remember that harboring the resentment and holding a grudge can hurt you even more. The word "forgive" really means to give something up for yourself not for them.

Let go of offence. Let go of fear. Let go of revenge. Don't live angry, let go now!

Mercy and forgiveness must be free and unmerited to the wrongdoer. If the wrongdoer has to do something to merit it, then it isn't mercy, but forgiveness always comes at a cost to the one granting the forgiveness.

"I tell you, you will not get out until you have paid the last penny."

A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.