Quotes from Albert Ellis

Anger can be likened to an architect's blueprint. The availability of a blueprint does not cause a building to be constructed, but it does make construction easier.

When your heart begins to pound, your face gets hot, your thoughts race, your blood pressure skyrockets, and adrenaline surges through your body, you will seldom act in a rational way. Your rage may lead to a constant struggle to control your actions. Your fury itself may feel very uncomfortable and be a constant reminder that you are not dealing effectively with the world around you.

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor.

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.

The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.

Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.

The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.