Quotes from Melody Beattie

We frequently react to people who are destroying themselves; we react by learning to destroy ourselves.

Generosity is the value we practice. Nonattachment is a gift.

Even God cannot change the past. —Agathon

Forgiveness is wonderful. It wipes the slate clean. It clears up guilt. It brings peace and harmony

God, help me face and solve my problems today. Help me do my part and let the rest go. I can learn to be a problem-solver

Can you still see and hear? Do you have your senses of taste and smell? Can you walk? Run? Do you have a motorized chair if you're unable to walk on your own? Come on—let's get it all on the list. Ask friends or family for help making your list. What do they see you as having? What do they think you're lucky to have? What do they admire in you?

5. We can depend on God, too. He's there, and He cares. Our spiritual beliefs can provide us with a strong sense of emotional security.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Overreacting may impair our mental functioning. Decisiveness is hindered by worrying about what other people think, telling ourselves we have to be perfect, and telling ourselves to hurry. We falsely believe we can't make the "wrong" choice, we'll never have another chance, and the whole world waits and rises on this particular decision. We don't have to do these things to ourselves.

often seek love from people incapable of loving. believe

Take one or two steps more. Right around the bend is when we'll see the Light. God isn't late. We're early. Don't be impatient. Instead, be present for the moment we're in now.

Maybe we don't need to go deeper into our codependency. We can, instead, march forward into our destinies. We can remember and practice all we've learned about addictions, codependency, and abuse. With compassion and boundaries, we need to commit fully to loving God, ourselves, and others. We need to commit fully to trusting God, ourselves, and our process.