Quotes from Joshua Harris

We express true love in obedience to God and service to others- not reckless or selfish behavior- and we choose these behaviors.

When God knows you're ready for the responsibility of commitment, He'll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.

True love isn't just expressed in passionately whispered words or an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.

If you're not ready to consider marriage or you're not truly interested in marrying a specific person, it's selfish and potentially harmful to encourage that person to need you or ask him or her to gratify you emotionally or physically.

But remember, continuing a wrong relationship only increases the pain when it finally does end.

Just because something is good doesn't mean we should pursue it right now.

We express true love in obedience to God and service to others- not reckless or selfish behavior- and we choose these behaviors.

First we must understand that all of the world's deceptions flow from the belief that love is primarily for the fulfillment and comfort of the self. The world poisons love by focusing first and foremost on meeting one's own needs. Christ taught that love is not for the fulfillment of the self but for the Glory of God and the food of others. True love is selfless. It gives; it sacrifices; it dies to its own needs.

for Christians typical dating can often be a swerver - an approach to relationships that wants to go in a different direction than the one God has for us.

True love waits, but not just for sex. It waits for the right time to commit to God's brand of love—unwavering, unflagging, and totally committed.

Instead of rushing foolishly into a marriage because of impatience or one day looking back at our season of singleness with regret, let's commit to using our singleness to its fullest potential. Singleness is a gift. Let's rejoice in it and enjoy its opportunities today. Let's practice trusting God by pursuing His kingdom and His righteousness with all our hearts and by leaving the planning to Him.

In the past, the starting point of my relationships was what I wanted instead of what God wanted. I looked out for my needs and fit others into my agenda. Did I find fulfillment? No, I found only compromise and heartache. I not only hurt others; I also hurt myself, and most seriously, I sinned against God.