Quotes from Pamela Redmond Satran

It's not right to spend money you don't have to perpetuate a lie about who you are.

What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn't fail?" When I got that, I thought, Of course, I would just go for it! And that's what you've got to do every single day of your thirties and beyond. Just go for it! Your life is now.

If the means to a well-lived life is to take the road less traveled, first you have to get on the road.

It's rare that I have a boyfriend- that only happens if I fall in love. I've noticed that people who are never in a relationship just to be in a relationship keep their childlike spark because they don't end up settling for things that make them unhappy, and they never feel as if they took less than what was out there for them. So for me, being single is what I do, and falling in love is the exception.

Alanis Morissette: "You live, you learn. You love, you learn. You cry, you learn. You lose, you learn." I think there's something pretty comforting in knowing that even the biggest mistakes I'm inevitably going to make will turn me into who I'll be at thirty.

One of the best pieces of advice I've ever received was from my grandmother, who said, "A woman always has to keep something of her own, even if it's a jar of quarters." The other was from my agent, another wise woman, who told me twenty years ago: "You don't have to tell everything you know.

Making peace with my past was the first step; being grateful for it was the second. Now, at last, I can appreciate the woman those experiences created: me.

no one finds a braggart wise. And once I no longer thought of listening as "waiting to talk," I began to have more meaningful conversations.

Most of us fear that in growing old, we'll become a shell of ourselves. But, of course, it's the youthful versions of ourselves that are our shells; we must leave them behind like a snakeskin. We must grow out of ourselves to grow beyond our old limits, or else risk being suffocated by the sediment of our own history.

I think a very key thing for women is to refuse to let anyone tell you you're banned, you're out of fashion, you don't look the right way. Put your energy into a career that will be there for you regardless of the naysayers.

I now believe in growing old gratefully, not gracefully. I haven't found the secret to life, or love, or eternal youth. But I do know now that youth is not the blossom but the bud, and that though one cannot always be young and wild, if you are willing to learn, to grow, to outrun the mileposts of your own wildest dreams, you can always be winsome and lucky, lovely and free.

Love isn't always enough. It's a hard lesson because we're raised to believe that it is—it's in every story we hear. But just because you love somebody and they love you back doesn't mean your relationship makes sense or that it's a good one for you both to be in. Having chemistry with someone is important, yes, but the most important thing is that the person you're with makes you happy.